A Patient Endeavor


The day the Endeavor flew over Maggie, I learned an important lesson. 

It was Friday morning.  I was in a mad rush; carpool, Mother’s Market, juicing, walking, etc.  I wanted to get everything done because I had a fun plan in store.  Maggie and I were going to climb the mountain next to our house so we could see the Endeavor fly over Disneyland at 12:00 noon.  With its spectacular views; the ocean, Catalina Island, the LA skyline, and Disneyland, I was sure this was the perfect spot and a perfect plan, until Maggie got hold of it. 

“What?!,” she said.  “I don’t want to miss park day!” 

I told her in typical mom fashion when trying to convince your child to do something they don’t want to do.  “This is an historical event.  There will be other park days but this only happens once in a lifetime. I promise you will never forget it.”

“We can see it from the park, mom.” She said. 

She then added, “Please mom, I really really really don’t want to miss my friends.”

How can I say no to that?  I’m the Yes Mom.

Park day is truly important to her.  It is her favorite day of the week.  And, there were no promises that if we climbed the mountain that we would be able to see the Endeavor.  Then I would feel horrible.  We would miss the shuttle and park day.  So, we went to the park and I accepted the fact that I will just have to see the Endeavor at the California Science Center. 

But in our crazy morning rush, I did not have time to make lunch and we were both starving once we arrived at the park.  I decided I would drop her off at the park while I ran over to Native Foods to get lunch.  I asked a friend to keep an eye on her and jokingly stated,

“I will probably be standing in line at Native Foods, while the Endeavor does a fly-by right over the park.”

I guess I was still thinking that Maggie may be right and there is a small possibility that the Endeavor may fly over the park.  But it was 12:15, I was hungry and I was sure the Endeavor had already made its rounds and landed at LAX.

Well, my prediction could not have been more accurate.  Five minutes after I left the park, the Endeavor escorted by two fighter jets flew right over Bill Barber Park in Irvine.

I could not believe it.  But, I did believe it.

It reminded me of a bumper sticker I had on the back of my 78’ Firebird years ago when I was in college that read: 

When my ship comes in, I will be at the airport!

When we got home that evening, I told Riley and Casey the story.  I asked them, totally frustrated, “So, what was my lesson in all of this?”

Casey answered without a second to pause, “Patience.”

He was right.  Smart guy that Casey.  Patience has never been one of my virtues.  But I am learning.

It was patience, that finally got Maggie and I to the Hot Air Balloon Festival in Albuquerque, horseback riding in Socorro, shopping in Santa Fe, the Pueblos in Taos, hiking in Canyon De Chelly and four wheel’n in Monument Valley where a nice young Navajo man helping me with my luggage told me he would trade ten horses for me.

“Ten horses,” I asked. 

“Ten is a lot,” he assured me and then quickly changed his offer to twenty.

I like Monument Valley.

Last year, I had planned this exact same trip with Maggie.  We called it our Beacon of Light Tour but I soon realized that I was premature in my plans.  Just finishing chemo, three more surgeries ahead of me and a boat load of medical bills, we had to cancel the trip.   

It’s one year later and I am done with chemo, the surgeries are behind me and the bills, well two out of three is not bad.  

And, the trip?  The trip was exactly what the doctor ordered.

So, the moral of the story: patience my dear.

He that can have patience can have what he will…Benjamin Franklin

The two most powerful warriors are patience and time…Leo Tolstoy

Here are a few pictures from our travels that only patience allowed!

This is just the beginning.  We have more trips planned.

In time.


Ready for a Road Trip!Grandma and Grandpa's Phoenix, AZ


The Array, New Mexico

Horseback riding with Aunt Barbara in Socorro


Hot Air Baloon Festival Night Glow, Albuquerque


Maggie, Taos, NM


Pueblos! I want to live here!


Canyon De Chelly, AZ


Four Corners


Canyon De Chelly White House Ruins


Canyon De Chelly tunnel to 1.5 mile hike to the bottom of the canyon


Monument Valley, UT, The View Hotel


Monument Valley - The place you can spread my ashes when I die!



Maggie and I in front of a male hogan.


Tear Drop, Monument Valley


2 Responses to “A Patient Endeavor”

  1. Cyndi Says:

    Good for you! You’ve learned a very valuable lesson that some people never learn.

    One of the best things I’ve ever read with regard to families and children is: “Patience is a learned skill.” I have ever so slowly learned patience with my children, with myself and with the world. Remember that the lessons never end!! LOL

  2. Patricia Says:

    Great reminder of patience, Deanne! I can’t wait to tackle 60 miles of kicking Breast Cancer’s ass with you in 2 weeks!! I love your writings & love you too!!

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