Good Vibes for my Friends

Every October for the last 13 or 14 years (I can’t remember exactly, which is the reason I take Ginkgo Biloba every day), six fabulous women, myself included, escape from the husbands, kids, jobs and dirty dishes to Prescott, Arizona to spend a fun filled four days and three nights in a rustic log cabin nestled in the mountains.  Pines, blue jays, huge Arizona skies, an historical downtown, cute little boutiques, Whiskey Row, delicious food and weather to die for, Prescott is truly a paradise in disguise.

I have known some of these women from the days before boys, bras and periods.  I met Stacy in the 4th grade and remember getting all dressed up to go dancing at the Biltmore for her 11th or 12th  birthday, not exactly sure (I don’t’ think the Ginkgo is working).  I cheated off Sara’s test in the 7th grade, and snuck into bars with Michelle in high school.  Cathy was my brother’s girlfriend many years back and Julie was my college roommate.  We have been there for each other through many drunken nights, bachelorette parties, weddings, babies, moves, job changes, cancer scares, and divorce.  I truly feel amazingly lucky to be a part of such an extraordinary group of women. 

Although our weekends do not include naked dancing men or tigers in the bathroom, the getaway gives us a chance to decompress, reconnect, laugh, cry and sometimes simply let it all hang out.  And, no weekend is complete without sharing juicy sex stories. 

Sex is a huge topic among women in their 40’s.  With changing hormones and higher testosterone levels, a renewed sense of self-confidence, children growing up or moving out, and lustful feelings and emotions no longer being repressed, women in their 40’s seem to want sex as much or more than men.  This is nothing new actually.  It has always been like this throughout the ages.  It just wasn’t discussed like it is today.  In 1960, a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man was considered a nymphomaniac, Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960.  Today women are much more open about sex and being a “cougar” is considered quite acceptable and desirable.  So where am I going with this. 

I learned during our hilarious sex talks that a few of my friends do not currently own a vibrator, names to be withheld.  I was determined to change this.  As Betty Dodson, artist, author, and PhD sexologist states, “Masturbation is our first and natural form of sexual activity and if that’s inhibited or damaged, then we suffer for the rest of our lives.” Well, I surely could not let my girlfriends suffer for the rest of their lives.  During our Saturday shopping day, I snuck into a “Spencers” and bought them each a Neon Mighty Vibe, “designed to relieve tension, reduce stress, and relax sore muscles.  With four soothing head attachments to choose from, this mini massager hits all the right spots”. 

Studies show that orgasms relieve tension, increase blood flow, create a quick drop in blood pressure, help you to sleep better, calm cravings, burn calories, and release endorphins which are a natural feel good brain chemical that helps alleviate pain.  It is the perfect prescription for women today dealing with the daily stresses of life.  Stacy, Sara, Michelle, Cathy and Julie have given me so much over the years I simply wanted to give them some good vibes to keep them going until I see them all again next year.   

2 Responses to “Good Vibes for my Friends”

  1. Terry Says:

    I love it! That was great and so true! Good for you Deanne! xoxoxoxo

  2. Raundi Says:

    Yes…Oh GOD Yessss! I think part of being a good “Yes Mom” is saying “yes” to yourself.

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